by Dr. Jeanne Wilson, East West Essentials
It seems that when patients are trying to conceive, sex is a common topic of conversation, however once they become pregnant the concerns turn toward the baby. Whether some think it taboo to discuss pregnancy sex, or just feel that a pregnant woman should not be having sex, I say forget that. Ladies, let’s talk about sex and the pregnant woman!
True, the first trimester is a bit precarious for my pregnant ladies. Libido maybe low for lots of reasons, fear of miscarriage, tiredness, nausea… go easy on yourself those first three months if you don’t quite feel in the mood.
But in the second trimester, look out! This is the start of your second honeymoon, when the “pregnancy aphrodisiac” starts to really kick in. This is the time to reconnect with your partner, I always suggest that my patients take romantic getaway to indulge. Consider it: You can still safely travel, and if you have other children this is your last chance to ask for a babysitter before you add a “plus one” to your number. Trust me, once a newborn comes in the picture the offers will trail off, so take advantage while you can!
And pregnancy is a great excuse to indulge yourself. Think about it, finally you don’t have to worry about getting pregnant! You’ll be surprised at how much you will be able to let go of, and how much better the sex can be when your worries are released. And all the other vices that are now okay: chocolate; sleep is actually a prescription from your doctor; heavy lifting is no longer allowed, so you don’t have to worry about taking out the trash or doing tons of laundry; and you can go home from work early without guilt. There is no better time to enjoy your partner, enjoy your sexuality, and have a written excuse for anything you don’t want to do!
Be aware that your hormones are in full gear, and most of my patients – especially those that have previously been slightly hormone deficient – report an increased libido during the second trimester due to excessive hormones. So take advantage of it, blame it on the hormones. And utilize your partner to your advantage now, because when the baby comes you won’t be the only one who is exhausted.
So go ahead and enjoy your pregnancy sex life – it’s a doctor’s order!
